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The Hour Is Coming

John 5:25

I have, in my imagination, looked on all whom I know on the earth, and I have said, they are dying creatures. This is always true, but we often forget it. Yet when a precious one is taken, we begin to realize this truth. Thinking about this, I seem to see a passing procession. I remember many who have passed—a long array of my Master‘s servants—some carrying His banner high, others marching with swords drawn, and some weak and feeble being helped by sturdy champions. They are gone, and I will never see them here again. Some of you are also passing away. More are coming, but they are also going.

I said that I was looking at this procession. But that is incorrect, for I am in the procession. I am passing with the rest. What shadows we are! What fleeting things! What mists! What paintings on a cloud! We can scarcely say that we live; for the moment we begin to live, we begin to die. This earth is not the land of the living. This is a dying world. The living world is beyond death‘s cold river. Here graves are innumerable, and death rules all.

No! That is not true. For there is One who rules death. Death has no power over the living God. Death is His servant. It is through death that we pass into life. By the death of our redeeming Lord, we have been rescued from destruction. From everything that wears the aspect of death, we can turn to Him, Jesus Christ, who is the same, yesterday, today, and forever (Heb.13:8).

C.H. Spurgeon

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” – Jesus to the apostles in John 16:33

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Jesus warned the apostles and He warns us today that we will have trouble, but in the end God wins!! I called this blog entry ‘Reducing Anxiety’ because I have found that these tools help but they don’t eliminate anxiety. These tools should be available to all, especially Christians, as we deal with the trials of life.

Diaphragmatic Breathing

When we get anxious, we start to breath quickly and shallowly. Obviously you get less oxygen and it can be harder to think clearly. I’m not an expert on this but here are the steps I follow for this technique, along with some additional resources:

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Although you can lie down, I typically do this exercise while sitting up tall in a chair. Back straight, head looking straight ahead, comfortable and relaxed. Place one hand on your stomach and one on your chest.
Breathe in slowly through your nose so that your stomach moves out against your hand. The hand on your chest should remain as still as possible.
Optional: after your stomach is filled, then you can fill your upper chest (see diagram to right). If you do this optional step, then first exhale from the chest before…
Contract your stomach muscles bringing your belly button towards your spine. Exhale through pursed lips (like you are blowing up a balloon)
Repeat, inhale to a count of 8 (but don’t strain yourself) and exhale to a count of 4 (again, don’t strain)

Additional resources on Diaphragmatic Breathing:

Diaphragmatic Breath – The Cleveland Clinic: http://bit.ly/Rx0MxI
With Every Breath you Take (Part 3) by The Voice Lady: http://youtu.be/23ctmPTwgGY

Cognitive Restructuring

Cognitive restructuring is much like journaling but with a focused template and the goal of understanding and practically addressing anxiety.

Find a quiet place where you can think and write. Briefly describe (in your journal) the situation (provide context, date, etc.).
List all the thoughts you are having about this situation. Don’t filter yourself – this is important. These are your automatic thoughts.
How does this make you feel? (anxious/nervous, angry, frustrated, sad, irritated, embarrassed, ashamed, hateful, confused, etc.)
List the thinking errors in your automatic thoughts. Here is a list of possible errors: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_distortion
Challenge your thoughts. Here are some sample questions that could help:
1. Do I know for certain that___________?
2. What evidence do I have that ________?
3. What is the worst that could happen? How bad is that?
4. Do I have a crystal ball?
5. Is there another point of view?
Rational Response is a summary of the challenges into a rational statement to use to combat your automatic thoughts.
Achievable Behavioral Goal – what is one thing that is do-able that you can do right now to help reduce the anxiety?

Afterwards, you can further ask more questions like: Did you achieve your goal? Did the rational response help? What did you learn? This is from a book called Managing Social Anxiety: A Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Approach Client Workbook (Treatments That Work). You can find the complete two page worksheet to use as a guide below.

I find that after doing this exercise for a while, the anxiety creating thoughts immediately bring the rational response to mind which acts like a cure. Here’s a very short example:

Situation: Getting over a cold that has kept me from working for two full days
Automatic Thoughts:
1. I’ve got a lot to get done but I’m still fatigued from my cold. I’m falling behind!
2. I also would like to post a new blog entry but I want to do it well and not rush it. -> Honor God
3. Job search is stalling with no word from multiple opportunities while I was sick.
4. Worried about upcoming storm – the tree near our garage could fall on our house.
Feeling: Anxious, tired
Thinking Errors: Disqualifying the positive, Fortune telling
Challenge: I’ve been sick and despite that I spoke at a conference and have had somewhat productive days.
Rational Response: Give yourself a break; Trust God for the outcome; Make a list
Achievable Goal: Make a list of the follow-up items and actions I need to respond to first.

I sincerely hope this post gives you some tools that help you reduce your anxiety. Please let us know your thoughts. Do you have other techniques that have worked for you? Have you tried these before and had success? or not?

God Bless!

Reducing Anxiety – Practically Depending on God by Westchester Men’s Ministry is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.
Based on a work at https://nymensministry.com/2012/11/01/reducing-anxiety/.