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My Father; My Hero

written by Gene Wiggins

My father is my hero. He hasn’t always been, I’m ashamed to say, but he is now.

dad, hero, mentor, model, MENTOR, father, fatheringHere are some of the reasons that my father is my hero:

  1. He’s always composed and calm.  Never out of control, nor does he ever yell, unless someone is yelling too much and too near him.  (A person can only take so much.)
  2. He recognizes he makes mistakes and he apologizes when he hurts someone’s feelings.  He knows he’s not perfect but he accepts it for what it is.   Some people strive to be perfect and others like to point out other’s mistakes.  Which are you?
  3. He smiles and talks to people he likes and loves.  He doesn’t talk to people that he’s either annoyed with, or plainly doesn’t like.  But doesn’t say anything negative about that person.  He generally nods them to death and pictures a donkey in his head.
  4. He prefers a person’s company rather than gifts.  But if your going to give him clothing make sure he has plenty of room, but that it’s not too big.  If you give him candy, make sure it is butterscotch, or chocolate or caramel or all of the above, and always salty.
  5. He knows when someone wants something from him.  He may look like a western hick, but he’s as smart as they come.  He’ll catch you in a lie.  He’s not forgetful, he’s just slow of hearing.
  6. He’s not materialistic.  He would be happy anywhere as long as he has something to keep the rain off his head, something to keep him warm and a bed to rest in.  (I hear you giggling, Donna and Lynda)
  7. He’s generous and caring.  He’s generous with gifts and will give away all his possessions without thinking about it.  But somehow he knows who’s genuine, and who’s trying to play him.  The devil himself would give up and go back to hell before he got anything out of my old man.
  8. He’s helpful.  He’ll go out of his way to fix something or build a fence for a neighbor.   I heard a story from a neighbor who lived next door to my father once.  My father overheard his neighbor talking about hiring someone to cut down a tree in his front yard.  The man heard my dad shout “I’ll be right back.”  Shrugging the man continued his conversation with his friend.  A moment later my father came back with the longest chainsaw he ever saw (that’s my dad–overkill).  He started the motor up and went to work. The man said he witnessed sawdust and chips flying all over the place.  So much that he couldn’t see my father or the tree.  Another moment later, the tree slowly toppled to one side.  And low and behold my father still stood there completely covered in sawdust, including his glasses.  He took his glasses off and said ‘there ya go’ and promptly began sawing it up into fireplace sized pieces.  It was all done in ten minutes.  He helped his neighbor stack the pieces in the side yard off the lawn.  And they became best friends and the neighbor later on became my best man.  He loves telling the story to outsiders, just so they would know what kind of man my father is.
  9. He’s a veteran of three wars.  World War II, the Korean War and the Vietnam war. Although he never saw combat, he sat behind a gunnery tower keeping his eyes on the night sky and drinking the world’s strongest coffee.  Navy coffee.  What’s left over they use to remove the paint off the ship.  No really, seriously.  What does that do to your insides then?
  10. He is a true believer.  He believes in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.  He’s always believed God will get you out of any fix you’ve stumbled into.  And he’s had a few close calls.
  11. He loves me unconditionally.  After recovering my long term memory in the hospital I remember how much he had to put up with me.  All the trouble I would get into.  All the trouble I would cause, and all the trouble makers I would hang with.  I always said the wrong thing at the wrong time, pulled the wrong pin, or cut the wrong wire.  My dad would just shake his head and sometimes let out a breath of air at the same time, but just walk away.  But never did he hit me, never did he say a discouraging word, and he most certainly never spanked my bottom.  But he knew there was something not quite right with his son.  Dad let me tell you what it was, hormones and the scantily clad girl across the street.

These are just some of the reason my dad is my mentor.  I love him very much, as much as my wife loves her friends and family, and I’m glad he’s my father, but mostly, I’m proud to call him my hero.
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A Father’s Testimony

My daughter lived 780 days (2 years and 2 months) and we often wondered after she died, if she knew Jesus.  She Did!  We know we will see her again and I hope her story will be a comfort to others who have experienced loss.  May God comfort you and bless you!

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Emily was born on February 13, 2002 with Carnitine-acylcarnitine translocase (CACT) deficiency which is a genetic disorder that prevents the proper breakdown of fats.  This leads to excess ammonia in the blood (hyperammonemia), an enlarged liver (hepatomegaly), and a weakened heart muscle (cardiomyopathy).  Emily died on April 3, 2004 of cardiomyopathy.

Carolyn and Terence miss Emily very much.  We know that she lights up heaven just a little more with her presence but this world is that much dimmer without her.

God Bless!

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Men on Pinterest? No way?! Way!

Yes, the Westchester Men’s Ministry has over 500 followers on Pinterest and growing.  Although many of those followers are women at the moment.  Take a look at our boards and tell us what you think in the comments section of this post?

Do you think we should spend time on Pinterest?  How can we better serve you and your ministry?  Thanks!

Here are a few of our recent pins, see more at: http://pinterest.com/nymensministry/

God doesn't waste suffering How Firm a Foundation Theology snoopy Real Men Pray Bible study

Next blog entry: Sunday, October 21st – I’m Anxious!  I Guess I don’t have Enough Faith?

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2012 Men’s Retreat!

Lake Champion Men's Retreat #MensMinistry

  The Retreat is here!  This coming weekend.

Thursday, September 13th – Sunday, September 16th

Lake Champion, NY  (Glen Spey, NY)

If you haven’t signed up yet, it isn’t too late.  But you better hurry.

Learn more and register here: http://www.priorityone.org/index.php?option=com_lc_register&Itemid=80

Price discount if you are part of the work team.  Scholarships also available.

 

Logistics: The weekend starts with dinner on Thursday night at 7pm.  Then Stephen Beck will give his first talk of the weekend.

Some people plan to come up on Friday which is perfectly fine.  Please be aware that there is a program (breakfast, speaker, etc) from 8am until noon.  Then we have the afternoon (after lunch until 5:30pm) free.

Car pooling is available.  Just let me know when you plan to leave and I can team you up with someone.  Thanks!

 

Questions: Contact us (NYMensMinistry@yahoo.com) or Bill Freeman at bfreeman@priorityone.org

We hope you can join us for this fun and God filled weekend!

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Westchester Men’s Ministry Online

Please visit the Westchester Men’s Ministry on our various social media sites!  Thank you for all your support!!

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I’m Watching You Dad !

Model the Behavior for your kids

Be the model that your kids need you to be!

Thank you Dads for all you do!

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Protecting Your Family

As Christian parents, it is imperative that we regulate what our children see on TV, the internet and elsewhere

“Train up a child in the way he should go,  And when he is old he will not depart from it” – Proverbs 22:6

“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” – Matthew 5:28

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman” – Job 31:1

Some Statistics:

  1. On Internet sexual content from Online MBA.  See the full infographic here:

  

2. On TV – according to USA Today, teens experience 3 times as much sexual content on TV then on the internet.  

3. The impact of all this sexual content:

    • According to a Rand study, teens that saw the most sex on TV were twice as likely to initiate intercourse
    • According to Pediatrics, teens who were exposed to the most sexual content were twice as likely to get pregnant in the subsequent 3 year period.
    • Also TV, internet and games, impact their weight and sleep, depression and anxiety, and even grades

So, How Do We Respond?!

I was planning to put together a list of tools and resources but then found Focus on the Family’s page on the topic and I think it is pretty good.  There are other tools out there as well like SafeEyes and Norton Family but this site also contains resources for TV, etc.  So take a look at this site and let us know what you think in the comments.  Thanks!

Focus on the Family – Safety Resources

Sources for all data are listed in the body of this blog.  Please refer to the links for more details.  Thanks!

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M = Model the Behavior

        I just love this picture!  It appeared in the Fall edition of Seed & Harvest from the Trinity School for Ministry.  Although I don’t know Tyler, I can tell he is a great dad.  So I thought this was the perfect image to use as we talk about the ‘M’ in M*E*N*T*O*R.

We’d like to ask you to tell us about people you know who are great Dads.  We then publish some of the stories and videos that we receive.  You can contact us at NYMensMinistry@yahoo.com.

Thanks for reading!

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Casting Crowns – Courageous (Official Music Video from the Movie)

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The Demise of Guys?!

We originally posted a TED talk on the impact of frequent TV, gaming and porn consumption.  After further reflection, we believe the talk didn’t make the case strong enough.  Please watch this space over the next week – we will share more data on this issue. 

We will also share data on the epidemic of fatherless households.  Sometimes this is due to the physical absence of the husband/father, and sometimes it is due to the emotional absence.  Both, have a huge impact on a child. 

In the meanwhile, please support the below MENTOR initiative.  Thank you!

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I don’t pretend to have all the answers but this is one of the reasons we have a men’s ministry.  We refuse to sit idly by, while our children and grandchildren, our sons and daughters, our friends and family become victims to our society!  We are starting a movement!  Will you join us?!

The movement is of fathers to sacrifice for their children and become a  M – E – N – T – O – R:

M = They Model the behavior.  So that their children say ‘I want to be like that!’.  Pastor Denny Henderson
said it best when he said his father told him that he could always be confident in ‘doing what I do.  saying what I say, watching what I watch, reading what I read’.  He would never do anything that he, his son, shouldn’t do.

E = They Engage and Encourage.  It’s important to know what your son is interested in, what they are worried about, what they are excited about.  As someone said, part of loving someone is caring about what they care about. 

N = They Share the Good News.   A firm foundation based on the Gospel.  As Jesus says in Matthew 7 and Luke 6, you will not be able to stand trials if you do not have a strong foundation.  The foundation is Jesus and we build on that foundation through obedience.

T = They Commit their Time.  We need to spend time not only with our children but with our wives.  How we treat their mothers teaches them a lot about how they should treat women.  As Rev. Theodore Hesburgh said ‘The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.’

O = They Expect Obedience.   There is a place for respect and displine in parenting.  As we are obedient to God, we need to ensure our children our respectful and obedient to us and other people in authority.

R = And They Regulate.  As parents we need to regulate the amount and quality of TV, internet and gaming that is consumed by our kids.  We need to create boundaries of appropriate behavior.  Ironically once they know the boudaries it creates a refuge for them because they know what is appropriate.  It’s like the anology that rules in baseball allow us to enjoy the game.  We don’t have to worry about someone running to first and hitting the first baseman in the head with the bat before they are tagged.

Are you willing to make this commitment?   For your son’s sake, for your sake, I hope so.  May God bless you all!

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